As Christian girls, we’re being bombarded by our culture’s message that seductive and sexual poses are cool, hip, and normal. Taking seductive selfies isn’t raunchy anymore…it’s acceptable and praised.
Basically, I can’t work out why this post doesn’t quite seem right, and I need help… aivley?? I mean I kinda agree, but also there is SOMETHING wrong, but I con’t work out what…
Okay I have a bunch of problems with it.
(i) the way she extrapolates that her reasons for doing something must be the same as other people’s reasons for doing something. She posted ‘seductive’ selfies because she wanted the attention and confidence she got from it.
(ii) she criticises her own reasons for doing this (you should get confidence from God, not from comments other people make) but she never deals with those reasons other than vaguely making the assumption that if you were focussed enough on God you wouldn’t need the affirmation of humans.
(iii) the easiest way to judge people is on their actions. so if you did an action for bad reasons it’s easy to assume that all other people taking that action are doing so for similarly bad reasons. this is really just (i) again.
(iv) she’s like a pendulum swinging back from “PAY ATTENTION TO ME” and doesn’t get that the point is not that a person should hide their physical body away from the world, but that there are more important things.
SO MANY MORE IMPORTANT THINGS THAN GETTING WORKED UP OVER THE FACT THAT OTHER GIRLS ARE STILL DOING SOMETHING YOU NO LONGER DO AND THEY ARE GETTING ATTENTION FOR IT
(Side note: is the blog anything but a desire for people to tell her that her faith is on the right track, just like she once desired for people to tell her about her body? what is the profession of this opinion but an opportunity to display how she is more holy than those others? You could claim it’s an attempt to teach, to share a perspective…. but I remain skeptical of the motives because it doesn’t feel like an article full of love, it feels like one full of judgement (which, admittedly, my post is too.))
(v) she’s conflating the issue of ‘seductive’ selfies and all selfies. when is it okay to post a picture of yourself? are they not all ‘self-glorifying’? even the ones that are not sexual at all? what if I post a picture of my art? is that self-glorifying? what if I post a picture of my hair in a fancy braid, or a new dress, or a gigantic smile because i want my friends to see how happy some excellent news just made me? those things all put attention on me instead of God. but, let’s be honest, is that a problem? what would a world look like if no one ever thought of anything but God? does God not want us to have hobbies and families and share in each other’s good news and exciting achievements? what about when those achievements include spectacular lighting and killer eyeliner and good composition?
(vi) does she really attempt to claim that the reason teenage girls are so needy lonely insecure (etc) is because they’re not holy and pure enough?!
idk man, i have no tl;dr. i just want all people to stop making posts telling teenage girls what not to do. except now i’m talking about what i don’t want teenage girls to do.